This has started to happen to me more and more.
People “helping” my kids.
We will be at the playground or walking through a store and Lincoln will struggle,
He will trip over his own feet.
Struggle to get up some steps that may be too big for his little legs.
Or slide down a slide that is may be too steep.
And I will watch.
I don’t sit back and watch because I am a mean mother, I watch because I believe my son can figure it out.
My child is strong enough to get up those steps- he just needs to realize it.
My son is perfectly capable of picking himself up after a spill- and he has no problem doing it.
If he slides down a slide and lands on his butt, he can decide if it was worth it- and 9 times out of 10 he will want to do it again.
And I truly believe my son is smart enough to problem-solve his way through any situation that may be challenging for a toddler.
I believe in my kid.
So I watch him.
And if you want to practice a different form of parenting, go ahead.
BUT KEEP YOU MEDDLING HANDS OFF OF MINE.
If he falls, please, don’t help him up.
If he is about to go down a slide that you may think is too steep for him, please, don’t stop him.
And if he is figuring out how to get onto large playground equipment, please, don’t assist.
Because I am his mother.
And I don’t think you are helping my child.
You are stifling his learning.
And you are taking away his opportunities to problem solve.
Trust me, if my kid is in harm’s way I will be the first person he sees, I will be the first one to comfort him, and I will be the first one to wipe away his tears.
But I won’t do everything for him,
And I certainly don’t want you to.
Parent your kids however you want (and I will be honest, I may roll my eyes at you from a distance)
But keep your hands off mine.
Have you experienced something similar, or am I the only one?