Mom and Boys

Figuring it out one day at a time.

I breast feed because it is easy and cheap, not because I am better than you.


My little guys are boob men.

Boob man

And I get it, I am lucky.

Breast feeding is just easy for me.

Both my kids latched right on within hours of being born.

My milk came in weeks before my due date,

And I make plenty.

I feel like so many moms breastfeed with judgement.

Like their bond with their child is so much more substantial because there child is sucking on their nipple as opposed to the nipple of a bottle.

Or that they deserve a gold star because breast milk is soooo much better for children.

I’m a teacher.

When a student comes into my class I have NO IDEA which students were breast-fed as children, but it is often very obvious to me which students have parents that care about them.

Breastfeeding should not be the status symbol of motherhood.

And I feel bad that it has becomes such a thing.

When I tell a bottle-feeding mom that I breast feed, I instantly get an excuse from her as to why she is not breastfeeding.

I just want to tell her that she does not need to justify her choices as a mother to me or anyone else.

Am I the only one that feels like this judgement exists?

I know the judgement can fall on breastfeeding moms when they breastfeed for too long.

I actually had someone tell me it was gross that I was breastfeeding my nine month old.

But that is a whole other blog post.

So is it me?  Am I the only one that feels like there is some unfair judgements on bottle-feeding moms by breastfeeding moms?  Do breastfeeding moms feel superior, or do bottle-feeding moms feel unnecessarily guilty?




6 thoughts on “I breast feed because it is easy and cheap, not because I am better than you.

  1. Great post! I got the same sort of comments and thought it was odd that people would feel threatened that I was still breastfeeding my 6 months old baby. But I figure those are the same folks who comment on anything you do with YOUR child. I was shocked by the mean things people used to say to me about my parenting when my daughter was small. Now I have a well adjusted happy teen who loves life, does well in school and has a strong sense of who she is in the world – and nobody is rocking my parenting boat anymore.

    I know when your sons are older you’ll be proud that you raised them your way! AND they’ll thank you for it!

    All babies are different. All moms are different. All families are different. If we were all the same the world would be a boring place indeed.

  2. I breastfed one and bottlefed the second of my children. I challenge anyone to tell the difference now! They are 12 and 8. 😀

    • Exactly. It is whatever works for your kids and what works for you as a mom. I think many people are very into the mentality that their way is the best way, and I think we need to start thinking it terms of my way is the best way for me. And other people may have a best way for them, and that is okay. All the judgements drive me crazy.

  3. I’m with you. I got a major breast infection when I tried to breastfeed my daughter and switched to bottles. I felt seriously “looked down upon” by breastfeeding moms because, how dare I not do what is best for my kids!?!?! It didn’t work for me. It works for others. Let’s not judge each other as moms. I’m with you. I’m a school social worker. Whether or not you breastfeed is not nearly as important as whether or not you are actually present in your kid’s life and parent them.

  4. I tried breastfeeding all of them but try as I might, I couldn’t produce enough milk 😦 The BF Nazis at La Leche League would rather me starve my child than resort to a bottle. In the end, the breastfed ones aren’t any healthier than the formula babies, nor are they smarter despite what anyone says. You are spot on: it’s all in the way we parent them that counts.

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